Have you asked yourself, “What is the role of language in my life, and how do I make use of it?”

In this post, I will provide you with materials to put yourself out there and conquer what you desire.

1: Socially

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Start Conversations

Don’t wait for others to initiate. Try to make eye contact, and if you want to talk to someone, go ahead and see what’s on their mind.

You can also join events to find people with similar interests, but the first step in every connection is conversation. Conversation is what makes connection possible.

2: Academically

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Try to establish a private connection with your teachers. Reach out to them and encourage discussions about mentorship or collaboration opportunities. Not every teacher will offer this chance, but the more you engage with them, the more likely you are to find those who genuinely want to help.

First Step: Present Your Ideas as Elegantly as Possible

This is where I like to use the phrase, “Fake it till you make it.” If you have only a little knowledge, be humble and acknowledge that you don’t know everything. And even if you do, show that you are willing to relearn. Arrogance toward teachers is not the way. Ask questions to learn.

Second Step: Engage in the Process with Questions

Don’t remain silent. Silence is the death of thoughts. At the very least, write your questions down somewhere. Thoughts shape you. Find the right words to express them and make them a lasting part of your life.

3: Emotionally

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Conversations, and asking the right questions, are always effective strategies. However, the fear of judgment or criticism keeps many people silent.

I’m telling you, every step you take toward growth comes with pain and a price. Imagine something ten times worse than what you expected, and prepare yourself for that.

Without mutual vulnerability, meaningful conversation cannot happen. You need to share your own vulnerabilities in an honest way. If the other person values the growth of your relationship, they will reciprocate by sharing theirs.

4: Intellectually

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Starting a blog, podcast, or social media account can help you create a path for people who want to get to know you better.

Try to make a resume for yourself—a list of the things you have done and a list of the things you want to do or achieve.

Engage in open discussions about ideas that challenge you.

5: experimentally

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You need to travel alone or with new groups.

Start new hobbies—ones that push you out of your comfort zone. For example, running in the morning or late afternoon is difficult for me as a somewhat lazy person. That’s why I have made it a habit to overcome my mental barriers.

Challenge yourself with new ideas—things you haven’t done every day. For example, journaling or exercising.

Say “yes” more. You don’t need to overthink every subject. Experience allows you to make decisions for yourself instead of being a pawn in others’ decisions.

Also, keep in mind that social interactions won’t always be smooth. There’s no need to worry; the more you practice, the more natural you will become. Don’t overthink your mistakes. Your mistakes and failures will teach you more than any other experience.

Watch or join lectures. Give yourself the opportunity to think differently. Be flexible in relearning. No knowledge or skill is absolute—there are thousands of ways to accomplish the same task.

Accept novelty and awkwardness as part of your journey. Nothing is easy at first, but you will get used to it.

 

Plus: How can I put it to work?

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To make everything we discussed work, you just need to believe in yourself. Simply put, if you don’t, you need to pretend you do—at least for a while, until you complete a task. If you complete your first task, you will be more determined to continue. Rejection, failure, and criticism—especially harsh ones—are part of the path to growth.

Don’t wait for the right moment; there will never be one if you don’t take action. Actions will speak for themselves, but silence and passivity are like dead soil. Nothing will grow from the soil of your life or mind if you don’t plant the seeds of words and actions in it.

Confidence comes from action. Your past has defined your present. Don’t let your present actions ruin your future.

If you think you have no value on your own, try to redefine what you have learned. Try to develop your own definition of things—not the one that society or religion has imposed upon you.

As long as you are not connected to the present, you are trapped in the past or future. Live in the moment—not just to please yourself, but to build a stronger foundation for your future.