You may need to take a look at the post “Don’t let your mind become a trickster” before starting this one.
1. Build a strong foundation for your beliefs
Know what you believe—and why. If you start questioning everything without rebuilding from the ground up, you’ll eventually find yourself isolated, like you’re on an island far from your people.
By people, I mean your friends, family—anyone you were once connected to. That isolation happens because building a foundation requires stepping away. And when you do, many of your connections may be disrupted or even broken.
Why? Because the person who emerges from this internal journey won’t be the same as the one who began it.
And that’s the point—you’re not meant to stay the same.
2. Tell the truth, no matter what
Denying the truth is pure ignorance.
If you face it now, it will hurt—but it’s far less terrifying than dealing with it later.
Truth, no matter how uncomfortable, sets the foundation for clarity, growth, and real self-respect.
3. Don’t repress your emotions
Emotions are delicate, but essential. They are not problems to solve—they are signals to understand.
Learn how to express them. Start with honesty.
Try to be as genuine as you can—with yourself, and with others.
If you feel sad or anxious and don’t know why, don’t ignore it.
Try to find out why.
4. You need human connection—but not just any kind
Before seeking connection with others, you need to know who you are and what you want from life.
If you don’t know these two things, how will you know who you want to commit to?
How will you know who’s right to walk beside you?
Real connection only happens when you show up with intention—not out of fear, dependency, or confusion.
5. Don’t be afraid of getting lost
Don’t fear being lost, because fear makes you fragile. And when you’re fragile, people can easily step on you—and your rights.
Being lost isn’t the enemy. Staying lost is.
Courage begins when you stop fearing uncertainty and start walking through it anyway.
6: Be humble
What do I mean by “humility”? It starts with one word: confession.
If you even feel the smallest flicker of denial or avoidance rising inside you—toward yourself or others—pause. Get real.
Tell the truth.
Say how you feel. Admit when you’re wrong. Acknowledge when your behavior has hurt others.
Say the hard thing: “I messed up.”
Tell them you’ve been putting in a half-hearted effort to be good—but that it hasn’t been enough.
When you open up to people and try to be real—instead of performing or pretending—something shifts.
People begin to feel safe around you. They see your humanity, and that invites trust.
They trust you because you made yourself vulnerable.
They see your weakness—and that’s what connects you.
That’s the first thing all humans share: imperfection. And the courage to admit it is the first step toward real connection.
7. Stop talking to others
If you talk too much, you won’t find the time to listen—especially to yourself. If you adopt silence as a practice, which is painstakingly difficult, you will be able to be reborn and rise from the ashes.
8. Be kind to yourself
Imagine your “self” as a little kid. It needs your attention. It needs your protection. Every time you feel yourself about to misbehave, imagine your “self” as a child who can still be saved from corruption.
9. Running is like daily therapy
If you adopt ‘Running’ as a micro habit, you might not believe how profoundly it can help regulate your dopamine levels throughout the day.
10. Write and read
Language is the oldest human invention. As humans, we don’t just share a bloodline with our ancestors—we also share a common way of understanding the world through language. While we may learn different forms of it, all that we have accumulated over thousands of years as science or knowledge is, fundamentally, a form of language. Science is a universal method of evolution through communication. We have invented something called the scientific method—a system that has made it easier for everyone to contribute to the ongoing evolution of human knowledge.
When you write about your thoughts and experiences, you compel your mind to make sense of the world, and that’s just a start.
11. Be careful what you feed yourself with
You live in the modern era, which offers millions of choices for the content your mind and eyes consume. Whatever you give your attention to eventually becomes a part of you.
12. You need art—literature, film, and music—as a fast and accessible way to understand the world
Among these, literature is the most effective. It is a by-product of language. Humans have always needed to express their experiences in a way that deeply resonates across generations. Language alone wasn’t mysterious or evocative enough—so literature was born. Fiction is a powerful example. A well-crafted story, like Harry Potter, makes you wonder, reflect, and question yourself. If a piece of fiction moves you in this way, the author has done a remarkable job.
13. Eat properly
There is a duality between your body and your mind. If you harm your body, your mind suffers. And if your mind suffers, you lose your strength and clarity. Junk produces junk.
14. Be patient when you’re in pain
Modern life makes it easy to get distracted. But the only way to heal your wounds is by facing them.
15. Fight back
Not all battles are visible—but resisting despair, apathy, and distraction is a daily act of strength.
16. Seek self-evident truth
Don’t confuse or corrupt your “self” with lies. Stay honest with who you are.
17. Befriend your mind
You must learn how to resist your mind when it tricks you—and how to trust it when it speaks the truth.
18. Addiction
Even your best effort may not be enough to avoid addiction.
Let me start by saying this: I know you may not believe me, but there isn’t a big difference between different kinds of addiction. They are all strategies your mind uses to trick you into choosing an easier, calmer, and less stressful state—at the cost of your long-term well-being.
Your phone becomes a tool for distraction.
Drugs offer dissociation from reality.
Social media is a method for time-passing.
Movies help you avoid inner dialogue.
Pornography shuts down your deeper need for real, committed intimacy.
Gaming lets you lose yourself in another world.
They all serve the same purpose: escaping the present moment.
The disturbing truth is this—they all weaken your connection to the now.
So I’ll ask you: Is that really how you want to solve your problems?
These compulsions form what we call moderate behavioral addiction—a repeated pattern of behaviors that look harmless on the surface but quietly erode your presence, focus, and emotional health.
And here’s something worth thinking about:
Helen Fisher, in her research, points out that even love functions like an addiction. The body’s reaction to romantic love is biologically similar to its response to addictive substances. That’s how deeply wired this need for emotional sedation really is.
19. Build habits.
Good habits level you up. Bad habits shrink you. Don’t mess with habits—they define you.
Once you start doing something habitually, it becomes incredibly difficult to undo.
Act cautiously with anything that repeats. Try to identify positive patterns, strengthen them, and reverse the negative ones.
Hack your own behavior.
20. Know how to catch up with your yesterday
You need to catch up with what you did yesterday, then speed up your workload.
Tuning in and getting focused is one of the most vital stages of each day.
Prepare today by leaving clues for tomorrow—like a short list, a single sentence, or just a few keywords on paper.
Let your yesterday guide your today.
21. Boredom is the birthplace of creativity
If you feel bored or exhausted, don’t escape it—analyze it. Ask yourself: Why?
Then try answering honestly, through writing.
If you do it well, you’ll begin to uncover faulty patterns. Break the cycles.
Uproot the weeds before you plant the seeds—because as long as trouble has a home in your habits, redemption will remain out of reach.
True change begins with the courage to look at your discomfort without flinching.
22. Don’t confuse arrogance with confidence.
Confidence is grounded. Arrogance is inflated.
Confidence comes from experience and self-trust; arrogance comes from insecurity pretending to be strength.
Know the difference. Carry yourself with quiet power.
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